Visiting a cemetery is a wonderful way to feel connected to our loved ones. For some of us, we have the ability to see our loved ones at any time, visiting their burial spots after a short drive. But for others, visiting loved ones is a harder task. For those who are far from their loved ones, being in the area of their loved one’s cemetery means that they want to take advantage of the rarity and be sure that they schedule time for a cemetery visit. If you’re planning a cemetery visit while living out of town, here’s what to consider before stopping by.
Planning Cemetery Visits From Out of Town
1. Be sure you’re aware of the cemetery’s operational dates and hours.
When visiting a cemetery is a more difficult task and requires a bit of a trek, it’s important to know that the trip will be well worth it. The last thing you would want would be to arrive only to find that the cemetery was closed. Be sure you know the cemetery’s open hours and if any scheduled closures are coming up that might interfere with your plans.
2. Be aware of cemetery rules and etiquette.
If you’re visiting from out of town, you likely want to stay awhile and spend some time amongst your loved ones after the long trip. Perhaps, after spending so long in the car, you’re ready for your next meal and plan on picnicking in the cemetery. However, some cemeteries do not allow food, which you may be disappointed to discover upon arrival.
Additionally, if you’re visiting with young kids, they might have a lot of pent-up energy after sitting in the car for so long. However, burning off that energy by playing in the cemetery wouldn’t be respectful to other guests and the loved ones buried there.
Consider how your trip might impact how you and your family address the cemetery’s rules and etiquette. For instance, you might consider stopping for a bite to eat before your visit. You can even make additional stops on your trip that make you feel more connected to your loved ones, such as by visiting their favorite restaurant, making the journey even more meaningful.
Or, if you’re concerned that your children might be feeling too much energy to be able to handle the quiet expectations of a cemetery after such a long trip, you might take them to a park first or another location where they can play with fewer restrictions.
3. Locate your loved one’s gravesite before you visit.
A cemetery can be a lovely place to wander, but if you’re visiting from out of town, you likely have the goal in mind of seeing your loved one rather than simply seeing the cemetery’s beautiful grounds. Look up your loved one’s gravesite in advance, and be sure you have a cemetery map to help you get there. If you’re unable to find the information you need online, contact the cemetery staff for assistance.
4. Consider turning it into a family gathering.
If you’re visiting from out of town, you might want to visit not only the loved ones who are in the cemetery but also the loved ones in the area who you don’t get to see very often. Consider contacting your family members in the area before your visit to ask if they’d like to join you.
Cemeteries make for tranquil gathering places that are perfect for bringing families together. As you sojourn around the grounds with your family members, memories and stories begin, and suddenly, all of your loved ones, both those walking with you and those buried amongst the grounds, don’t feel so far away.